Turmoil seems to be a necessary theme with most twin flames. From the moment the union begins, you are at a battle of will with your emotions and your conscious mind. Everything in you is saying YES but your ego is screaming NO. Through each stage of the TF journey, comes more twists and turns, and if you aren’t careful – you will fly off the tracks. Unfortunately, this is a common theme in many twins’ lives. If you are out of balance when the union begins – it gives room and an open door for fear, ego, bitterness, demand, selfishness, and desperation. If the door isn’t shut quickly, by an understanding of just how important self-love is to keep the twin flame alive, these things become poison. That poison then starts to run through the veins of the relationship and will stop the whole purpose that twins have for existing in these unions – to give Divine and Unconditional love. It is never simply one of the twins that is solely responsible for the separation or demise of the union. Separation is actually one of the necessary stages in twin flame relationships.
These aren’t typical love connections. Your twin is a mirror meant to show you Karmic patterns that have to be healed and what you must change within yourself in order to transform your life and fulfill the role you have in transforming the lives of others. We see those “flaws” in ourselves clearer than ever before. This scares us MORE THAN ANYTHING and we mistakenly think it’s confirmation that we are unworthy – our biggest fear. We experience this wonderful person and it highlights to us all our “flaws”. TF’s know each other so well at the soul level and have similar issues, so we reflect to each other the very things we must heal. We see our twins highest and best self from the beginning, and they show their vast potential – but on the flip side – they show all of their weaknesses and split apart levels of Self that need to be healed.
I am here to tell you that this is a grueling process as it forces you to face our own areas of lack of self-worth. As you truly learn to love Self, then many of the expectations of the other are released. Each twin has extraordinary powers of Love, but it is the combined power of the twin flame that takes that power to the level needed to affect mankind and/or the planet. Since there is an incredible amount of energy exchanged between twin flames, if you are not transforming at equivalent frequencies, it becomes chaotic and slows down the progression through the stages in twin flame unions. Communication, compassion, forgiveness, and patience are necessary. You have to release all judgment and criticism, both for your TF, and especially for yourself.
During this time, self-care is extremely important. I will share some of my own personal tips and recommendations that have become important parts of my life since embarking on this path. My goal is to add to my Twin Flame Survival Guide as often as possible.
And remember this-
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters – compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Love and Light