Make room for Love…And clean out your damn closet!

If you haven’t cleaned out your closets, is there really any room for Love to live??

It may sound like a cliche, but this became the truth for my twin flame and I – literally and figuratively.

From the moment I stepped off the plane, there were signs that my twin and I may not have completely prepared for the road that was ahead of us. When I say clean out your closet, literally that is exactly what I mean! I left everything and everyone I knew – to enter a home that didn’t even have a closet cleared with my name on it. I can’t tell you how heartbreaking that moment was. I soon found out that my twin hadn’t told anyone in his life about us or our amazing plans for our life. I actually broke the news to his ex-wife, upon meeting her for the first time (can you say Awkward) – and his family in England treated me like the black plague after they found out about my arrival. The temporary plans to co-habitate with a roommate turned into a long-term emotional roller-coaster of drama – the details of which I am too kind to publish. The business that we had planned to start – never left the starting line – and was replaced with 11-14 hour work days for my twin. Does this sound like a clean slate for love?

Then there was Me. I on the other hand had told everyone I know about my twin flame – how could I not – it was the most important thing that had ever happened to me besides the birth of my children. I got a job before moving, just so that I wouldn’t be a burden financially on my twin. I prepared everything exactly how I have before, so that there were no loose ends. I made plans with my kids, to have regular visits or a potential move in the future. I even already had it planned for the return trip to get my household goods so we could move into a place as we planned. I was ready! Or was I?

Truthfully – although everything I just said happened – the emotional turmoil of leaving everything I knew was disastrous for a while. I had been so excited to start my life in a new place, meeting new people, and seeing new things – being with the Love of my life. Instead, my time was spent working, missing my children and family, and tolerating the living situation. Time with my flame was minimal, and the fire between us was trying to stay alive amongst a wind storm. Old wounds started to come to the forefront, and I felt abandoned and confused. I started to question everything around me and tried to fix everything that seemed to be going wrong. I began to doubt my twin’s love for me, instead of seeing the real truth of the matter – we both needed a Maid Brigade!

If your life and personal space is cluttered, there is no room for Love to come in. In order to truly be ready to engage in a loving relationship, you have to be committed to bringing order into your life on all levels — physical, emotional, financial, and spiritual. It is often a process of releasing, letting go, identifying and giving up that which stands in the way of letting love in. And yes, this includes unsuitable relationships and unsuitable ties to old flames (you know the ones!). Let yourself mourn what you must leave behind — an important process– and then you can move on. If you are so set in your ways, that everything in your personal space and life screams “SINGLE”– the tone for your new relationship already starts out on a sour note and perhaps that is the way you should remain. I can’t stress enough how imperative it is – especially in a Twin Flame union – to be sure you have done yourself and each other the service of spring cleaning your life. It isn’t negotiable.

“A house is made of wood and stone, but only Love can make a Home.”

Messy ClosetLola | LoLa

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